I have some contemplation's for you that I've been working with:

What's the difference between Principles and Values?

What's the difference between Attachment and Desire?

How do these connect and what are their purposes in our lives?

This is what I've come up with so far through contemplation at where I am at now:

The principles I live by healing people through sharing my love and knowledge sets the foundation for my values of respect, appreciation and compassion.

Part of my practice has been channeling energy such as sexual energy and using it for a higher purpose other than physical pleasures and desires.

It's been very beneficial for releasing my attachments to sexual desires and I also feel it will be very helpful in cultivating a relationship that's foundation is not sexual but more holistic; nourishing mind and spirit as well. I've seen so much tooken for granted on the physical level and mind and spiritual levels ignored and overlooked or replaced with quick sexual pleasures to cover-up what's lacking or missing from the relationship.

It makes more sense for me to spend time nurturing and exploring the seeds of friendship and cultivating from that growth more natural intimate expressions of love.  When you truly know someone and have built a strong bond then physical expressions are ten times more satisfying  and pleasurable. It's definitely not the best first level of expression and communication when you are just getting to know someone.  Too much emphasis in the beginning of dating is put around acknowledging ones horniness or physical attraction and not enough effort is put into getting to know the many dimensions of the person.

We are all one but uniquely separate in the levels of not only body, but mind and spirit as well!

So you have to ask yourself do you want a fast pleasure now that leaves you wanting more or are you willing to invest in building a lasting friendship which potentially could lead to unlimited pleasure and satisfaction throughout your life.

I know how it feels to be lonely and to feel that I am lacking that true connection with someone. It's easy to nurture loneliness with sexual desires and experiences, but my true being tells me that it makes more sense to express sexuality with another that brings thoughts of appreciation, love, respect and joy throughout my being on top of energetic warmth radiating through my body!

So the reality is to experience true contentment and bliss with another you must first cultivate and experience contentment and bliss within yourself channeling the energy of being on all levels of body, mind and spirit for the highest and greatest good of not only yourself but all other beings!

It is not natural for so many beings to feel lonely, isolated and depressed. Quickies and fast-fixes to these deep rooted internal imbalances will not solve this World epidemic it only numbs and covers up your feelings temporarily. To treat the true symptoms of loneliness and depression takes patience, understanding, space and time to manifest.

Do not judge these words but take time to absorb and understand them.

Healing & Loving Light~ Ki
Dharma Community
Berkeley, CA